Have you ever heard that expression used to describe a person? “She’s the real deal.” Usually this means that the person really can deliver what they say they can, right? That they aren’t a “poser”, but that they are who their disposition and “front” say they are. You could apply the WYSIWYG tag to them (What You See Is What You Get).

I think we all want to be that authentic.  However, sometimes it isn’t as easy as we’d like it to be. Sometimes we lack confidence in ourselves. Sometimes we don’t know ourselves very well. (If this is the case…spending time with yourself and finding out who you are and what lights you up is the next step.) If we meet someone and we feel attraction to them and suddenly our inner critic starts telling us we aren’t good enough, a typical reaction would be to go into “strategy mode”. Read more