This past week I noticed a common thread running through most of my coaching sessions…and when that happens, I try to pay attention and do the following:

1. Look in the mirror to see what the Universe is saying to ME so I can be sure I’m maintaining my own integrity here, and

2. Write a blog post so you can too.

So what is the thread I caught?  Boundaries and tolerating crap things.

Generally, the amount of things you tolerate is directly related to the strength of your boundaries.

The way you are treated by others is YOUR responsibility.  That awful behavior that you have been tolerating, it’s because YOUR boundaries are weak.  You CANNOT change other people, only yourself.
You must be the one to create and maintain strong boundaries.  But that’s not enough, you must also communicate them clearly, with love, compassion, and empathy.  No fair getting angry or being resentful at someone for crossing a line they couldn’t see. The thing is –  Setting boundaries is an act of love. Read more