Okay, I’m going to say this right up front.  That title is a trick question. I’m not trying to get you to think about whether or not you deserve Abundance, because I don’t believe in the concept.

And I’m not talking about the concept of Abundance.  I’m talking about the concept of Deserving.

About 10 years ago I was going through a really hard time in my life. My friends kept telling me I deserved better.  People that love me have told me that I deserve the best life has to offer.  And believe me, it felt completely wonderful to have my friends and loved ones express that to me. Besides that, I absolutely want the best life has for me.

Even if I don’t deserve it.

And I don’t believe I deserve it.

And I don’t believe you deserve it either.

Because, like I said, I don’t believe in the concept of deserving.

I realize that this sounds hard. Maybe even ugly.

I mean, can you imagine me telling a client that is coming to me because she wants a better job, or a soulmate, or to find joy in her life – that she doesn’t deserve it? I can hardly think that would go over really well at first glance.  But I’d do it.

Here’s why.  And look, I want you (and my clients, and my friends, and the world) to have the best. To have abundance, to experience resonant joy, to live a life that is beyond your wildest dreams.

And I know that if I told you that you deserve the best you may take that as a compliment. I get it. It feels really warm and fuzzy, especially when you’re in a tight spot, or a rough place, to have someone hug you and tell you, “You deserve only the best.”

But here’s the deal. You’d be better off to just ditch the whole the concept of deserving, because it’s not serving you. You believing in the concept of “deserving” will prove to be a hindrance far more often than it will ever help you produce anything you want in your life.

And look, I know you probably grew up with these beliefs…most of us did. It’s not our fault. We were trained to believe that we deserve it, or that we don’t.

Santa sometimes played a part. Or the honors roll. Or we had some value or talent or skill that proved how much we deserved it.

We deserved an A. We deserved a raise. We deserved to win the beauty contest, or the football game, or whatever.

But here’s the rub. If you believe you deserve something and it doesn’t show up, then you’re suddenly a victim. “I deserved better than this.” This kind of thinking is a fast track to Victimland, and you don’t want to live there. There is nothing there that you want.

And if you got something wonderful that you didn’t deserve, you may feel guilty and not enjoy it. You may even subconsciously devise a plan to get rid of it as soon as possible. Have you ever known someone that every time something awesome comes into their life they also get something crappy along side it? They get a bonus at work, their car breaks down.  They start dating a great guy, they lose their job. They finally get a vacation, they get sick.

We begin our punishment and rewards journey as small people. We hear things like “Mommy and Daddy love you so much, you are such a good baby!”

And of course so many of us grew up expecting Santa Claus to give us what we deserved, because if you are a good little munchkin Santa will bring you lots of toys!! He keeps a list you know. If you are bad you may get a lump of coal!

We then move on to school where we are again  encouraged to do well with other incentives. (Make the honor roll and we’ll buy you a new bike! Fail the exam and you won’t be going out Friday night.)

Here’s the thing – the whole concept of “deserve” is very heavy, and it packs a lot of self-sabotaging power.

We consistently create our own roadblocks because deep down we think we don’t “deserve” something.  And we create a whole lot of victim energy because we believe we DO deserve something that we aren’t getting (which causes us to wonder if maybe we don’t deserve it after all – a vicious circle.)

Let’s drop the whole concept of deserving and pick up the concept of worthiness.

You are worthy of Abundance. Period.

How does that feel? I can tell you that you are worthy of abundance without knowing a thing about you, without knowing any of your secrets, without knowing about that thing you did, or that idea you had, or that place you failed or succeeded.  Because it doesn’t matter.

Abundance is there for you and all you have to do is allow it to come in.  And knowing that you’re worthy is a key factor in doing so.

So, believe it, you are worthy of Abundance.

Love & Magic,

Cindie