A few months ago I had a conversation with my son. He was asking me why people sometimes stay in unsatisfactory relationships or situations for so long.

I told him that, “When the pain of the current situation becomes greater than the person’s perceived pain of making a change, they’ll make the change.”

Maybe the best question would be “Have you suffered enough?”

It is a simple, basic, question. In any given situation where we are not happy with the results, this is the ultimate question to ask!

Ask it while you are in a relationship where you don’t feel respected or heard, in your current job where you feel under-appreciated or overworked, maybe in your physical surroundings where you are tolerating clutter or shabbiness, in your friendships with people who don’t value you and what you bring to the table.

All of us experience areas in our lives where we are uncomfortable and dissatisfied and yet often we stay in these relationships and situations day after day, week after week, sometimes even for months and years! We stay until we’ve suffered enough, and then we wake up and take action to move forward.

I would pretty much bet that as you were reading this at least one relationship or situation came to mind.  An area in your life that you’ve been tolerating and procrastinating about changing.  I often remind my clients that “you get what you tolerate.”

And I know this because I learned it the hard way.  You see, I’ve been one of those people who thinks she can “tough it out”.  I’ve been one of those people who stayed quiet and didn’t ask for support, didn’t reach out to my circle of friends for help, thinking to myself “I can do this.”

But the reality is we all need support at times, and like so many needs, if we don’t ask for what we want we don’t get it!
A friend of mine recently commented on her blog that even though the workshops, retreats, group programs and books she has read have been very useful to her, all of her greatest transformations have come while working one-on-one with a coach.  I couldn’t agree more.  Partnering with someone to support you in moving forward, ending tolerations, creating clarity, and raising consciousness can be the most powerful thing you’ve ever done to facilitate your own growth.

So, my question to you today is, have you suffered enough?

Now is the time to move forward.

Love & Magic,

P.S. If you’ve suffered enough and would like some support letting go of your tolerations and creating a better experience let’s make some magic together this summer.