When was the last time you really listened to someone?  And when was the last time you really felt heard?  Did you know that “being heard” is considered a basic human need?  And yet I often have clients tell me they are not getting that need met in their relationships at home, as well as at work, and it’s not for lack of talking.

One of the main things that complicates this problem is the definition of the word listen.  So often while one person is talking the person who should be listening is in actuality waiting for their turn to speak – and this includes all of the mental activity that goes along with that waiting game, including planning what to say when it is (finally!) their turn. Read more